Common Sense

Our divorce laws are quite complicated and generally require the guidance of an experienced attorney to navigate successfully. However, no matter how good your lawyer is, he or she will have great difficulty overcoming your or your spouse’s lack of common sense. Common sense should be the guiding light for divorcing couples. Without it the process is likely to be more cumbersome, more stressful, more time consuming, and more expensive. For example, if a couple has reported combined gross income of $100,000 per year on joint income tax returns, [...]

By | 2017-11-10T16:48:34+00:00 November 10th, 2017|Divorce|Comments Off on Common Sense

Eight Helpful Divorce Tips

Eight Helpful Divorce Tips - If you are going through a divorce you may be confused, overwhelmed and even terrified of what lies ahead. Having information is the key to staying in control and keeping calm. Leave your emotions at the door: Don’t let those hard feelings color your perspective. You may want revenge, but in the end it’s far better to keep calm and look at things rationally. You could have your attorney send a letter to your spouse about the couch, but that simple letter could cost more [...]

By | 2017-11-10T16:17:06+00:00 November 10th, 2017|Divorce|Comments Off on Eight Helpful Divorce Tips

Questions to Ask My Divorce Attorney on the First Visit

Questions to Ask My Divorce Attorney on the First Visit - It can be daunting, confusing and downright scary to visit a lawyer about an impending separation or divorce. The right attorney will put your fears to rest and make you feel comfortable with the process. This is the time to ask the questions you may have about the divorce process. Here are some questions to ask before selecting the right lawyer for you. Do you concentrate in divorce? If he does, it means he deals with divorce a [...]

By | 2017-07-17T14:51:26+00:00 July 17th, 2017|Divorce|Comments Off on Questions to Ask My Divorce Attorney on the First Visit

Have A Pizza!

My friend Tony at Colts Neck Pizza, got me thinking last month.  He joked, “I have a complaint.  I read your articles, but you never say…have a pizza.”  As I ate my pizza that evening, I thought about what he said.  It made a lot of sense. Divorce is stressful even in the more amicable splits.  When the acrimony is extreme, stress levels can skyrocket.  People deal differently with stress.  Some lose weight.  Others gain weight.  Difficulty sleeping or concentrating are frequent side effects.  Irritability, raw nerves, or depression [...]

By | 2017-06-01T15:07:00+00:00 June 1st, 2017|Divorce|Comments Off on Have A Pizza!

Taking Your Lawyer’s Advice

We all hire professional when we have problems. When we’re sick or injured we go to the doctor. We follow her instructions and take the medicine she prescribed because we want to get better. When our pipes are clogged, we hire a plumber who comes with tools most of us don’t have or know how to use. We listen to his advice. When our car isn’t running right and we hear a loud squeal coming from under the hood, we take it to a mechanic to be fixed. And [...]

By | 2017-03-06T17:54:35+00:00 November 27th, 2016|Divorce, Lawyer's Advice, Professionalism|Comments Off on Taking Your Lawyer’s Advice

A Divorce Glossary

Divorce is a process which, predictably, has its own language. Most people entering the process for the first time are unfamiliar with the language of divorce. Here is a glossary of some of the most common terms. ARBITRATION – a hearing in which a neutral person (typically an attorney or a retired judge) selected by the parties’ attorneys, hears the case and renders a binding decision. Arbitration is voluntary, but once there is agreement to arbitrate, the result is binding. CASE INFORMATION STATEMENT (CIS) – a financial disclosure form [...]

By | 2017-02-27T20:29:38+00:00 August 27th, 2016|Divorce|Comments Off on A Divorce Glossary

10 Tips for Averting Disaster During Your Divorce

Do not leave the marital residence before speaking to an attorney. Do not sign mortgages, notes or loan documents if you believe your marriage may end. If your spouse talks about going bankrupt advise your divorce lawyer and speak to a bankruptcy lawyer immediately. Do not communicate with your attorney from any email accounts for which your spouse knows or could easily figure out your password(s). Change your internet passwords so that they are not your birthday, old address, pet’s name or any other combination that could be easily [...]

By | 2017-03-06T21:09:41+00:00 March 4th, 2016|Divorce|Comments Off on 10 Tips for Averting Disaster During Your Divorce

Should I Get Divorced?

IN THE MID – 1990S I had an initial consultation with an eighty four year old man who wanted a divorce. One of my first questions was, “When were you married?” His answer was, “1941.” I then asked, “When did you first realize you were unhappy in your marriage?” His answer? “1942”! Our conversation took place more than fifty years after he realized he was unhappy. “Why now?”, I inquired. He replied, “I woke up one morning and realized, I don’t have much time left. I want to see [...]

By | 2017-05-19T20:06:10+00:00 February 27th, 2016|Divorce|Comments Off on Should I Get Divorced?

Can I Keep The House

A QUESTION I OFTEN GET from people going through divorce is, “Can I keep the house?”  This seemingly simple question is actually a multifaceted one fraught with complicated facts and emotions.  Years ago a man literally divided the house in half  by using a chainsaw to cut through the roof and the walls.  That triumph of emotion over intellect is not the preferred way of answering the question. Generally, there are two main areas with many sub-parts to explore.  First, does the income and asset picture allow you to buy your [...]

By | 2017-02-27T22:30:48+00:00 January 27th, 2016|Divorce|Comments Off on Can I Keep The House


When you’re going through a divorce, discovery is a word you see and hear a lot.  What is discovery? Generically, discovery is the term for gathering the information you need to intelligently settle your case or failing that, presenting your case to the family court judge at trial.  Discovery takes many forms and the form and extent of discovery should be tailored to the facts and claims unique to each case.  Discovery can be expensive, so it’s doubly important to make sure that you engage in only the discovery [...]

By | 2017-02-27T22:05:26+00:00 September 27th, 2015|Discovery, Divorce|Comments Off on Discovery